Robert L. Stadheim, Ph.D.
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Robert L. Stadheim, Ph.D.

I was raised on a farm in South Dakota with my family raising grains, pigs, sheep, beef and dairy cattle. I started driving farm equipment when I was in grade school. Being the son of a farmer meant a four letter word "WORK." My cousins use to come and visit us on the farm. They thought that being on the farm was a three letter word "FUN." At one time we had about 1,400 acres and normally about 600 sheep. One year we had 2,400 sheep. We raised the wheat that went into Wheaties, the corn that went into Corn Flakes and corn syrup. I learned a lot about nature and raising food to feed to the world. It was a great experience to feel close to God and feel close to His hand of nature.

Still, there was something missing within me on the farm. I got tired of hearing the "Hum" of the tractor for hundreds and hundreds of hours. It was okay but it was not what made me happy in my need to serve God and Christ.

I did not feel called to be a farmer, like my Dad. I felt called by God to go into Christian ministry. I decided that a degree in Psychology would be a good Bachelor’s Degree before graduate school at a theological seminary. I studied under many different psychologists but never had one psychology professor that made me feel like, “I want to be like him or her.” There was something missing for me as I listened to countless hours of lectures on psychology. I came to the conclusion that if I did not want to be a clergyman, I surely did not want to be a psychologist who did personal and family counseling. When, it was time to move on to my four year graduate degree in theology, something happened to me. During my third year, which is a year of residency, I had the opportunity of doing my residency as one of four chaplains at a large level one hospital trauma center. This experience was an awesome awaking of what is happening in the world. I experienced many of the traumatic experiences of life at the hospital where I worked. The work was long hours, working with the real problems that happen every day in our major city hospitals.

The greatest opportunity that I had in my residency was to be Blessed with the opportunity of working under the guidance of the head chaplain. He showed me the importance of and how to put the two most important gears together in helping people. That connection was the gear of Christian Spirituality with the gear of psychological theories. The two gears came together and a bright light bulb came on for me that would change the direction of my personal and professional career. This awareness did not come over night. It was such a great awakening that continued to become clearer throughout my residency and it has continued to grow throughout my life.

It was easy for me to admit that the reason that I never wanted to be a counselor during my psychology studies was because I was missing the most important part in counseling, Spirituality, and for me that meant Christian Spirituality.  While I was in my residency I became aware that my ideal dream of serving God would be to be a Christian counselor.

Then, I was on to finishing my fourth year of my theological degree and I acquired a part time job as a chaplain at a juvenile prison. Here I got to see teenage prisoners who were suffering from many things and most of all suffering from spiritual bankruptcy. Then I went on to be a parish pastor for sixteen years. During this time I served as a chaplain at an inpatient alcoholic and drug treatment center. Again, I worked with more patients who were also suffering from spiritual bankruptcy. Many of these people were striving to make sense of their lives but did not have the two gears that were needed in their live, the two gears that I discovered in my residency, Christian Spirituality and psychological theories.

Then in 1991 God opened the door for me to reach my dream of serving Him as His assistant in carrying out the work of being a Christian Counselor. During this time I have had the opportunity of traveling to Japan and being a Lecturer and Consultant for the Diakonia Center in Sakura City, Japan. I saw the same thing happening in God’s people in Japan as was happening in the United States. God’s people there and here, needed the peace that comes from God through Christian Spirituality and psychological theories.

I Love my work as a Christian Counselor, for me it is the best job in the world. Seeing God’s light illuminate the face of my clients and lead them in a new direction is a “priceless” experience for me.

After more than 20 years as a parish pastor and a Christian Therapist, I have tools that may help you and your family find the peace and light you are searching for today.

Peace and Joy in Christ,

Robert L. Stadheim, Ph.D.

Call now for a consultation (480) 831-1212.

Dr. Stadheim's Training Certifications and Experience

In addition to holding a doctorate in Counseling Psychology, Dr. Stadheim also is an ordained minister. He served as a parish pastor and as a hospital, prison, and alcohol/drug treatment center chaplain.
Dr. Stadheim holds the following degrees and professional certifications:

  • Certified Diplomat with the American Psychotherapy Association
  • Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners
  • Licensed Independent Substance Abuse Counselor (LISAC) Arizona Board of Behavioral Health Examiners
  • Professional Clinical Member with the National Christian Counselors Association
  • Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor and Licensed Temperament Therapist Licensed with the National Christian Counselors Association
  • Lecturer & Consultant for the Diakonia Center, Sakura City, Japan




Hear what 5 clients have to say

I resisted the Idea

Like most, I resisted the idea of seeking counseling, but life’s path lead me to Dr. Stadheim and the Christian Living Center.

Life had me on the fast track of career advancement seeking to attain more status, income and image as a thirty something aspiring golf professional. Misplaced priorities had blindly let my family deteriorate compounded with a special needs child. After the death of our child at age six I then slipped into a cloud of depression and desperation, resigning my career achievements in an attempt to reconnect with and rebuild our family only to realize the damage was irreparable.

Throughout my career ascension and family life, “faith”, was attained through hard work, accomplishments, performance awards, recognition and the like – just keep on trying harder and everything will work out. Trials were just not an option to address only an opportunity to work harder until my greatest teacher of life lost hers showing me courage and acceptance as I was powerless to effect any change – then came the hopelessness – I was lost on life’s road map with no direction or idea on how to change.

Gently, graciously, constantly and fearlessly Dr. Stadheim opened my heart to feel and see God’s grace and mercy. Through honest counsel, hard work and prayer Dr. Stadheim illuminated the path God had in store for me, one filled with joy and peace but not without trials – only now I am able to feel, to hurt, to cry, to desire – to know it is OK to be alive and experience emotions for what they are and truly believe life is awesome and filled with choice.

Now looking back on where I came from and where I was I see blessings and a clear path to assist with life’s road map for the future in this world. In Him.


In My Opinion

My wife and I found Dr. Robert Stadheim and the Christian Living Center, by accident, an accident that saved our marriage and family unit. My wife scheduled an appointment with another counselor and asked me to meet her there. I left work and drove to Dr. Stadheim’s office by mistake thinking he was the counselor. I felt very comfortable the minute I stepped into his office. I explained my situation and Dr. Stadheim graciously gave me directions to that therapist’s office mentioning that he also was a counselor. Fortunately, I never made it to that appointment.

When my wife arrived home from the session we were both to attend, she said the woman counselor was cold, unemotional and very clinical.  I told her my story of meeting Dr. Stadheim and what a warm, caring and friendly person he seemed to be and that we should give him a try.

Needless to say we attended Dr. Bob’s counseling sessions individually, as a couple and family for approximately 2 years.

It is my opinion I would not be married or have my family intact if it were not for the skill, patience, compassion and help provided by Dr. Stadheim.  I am extremely pleased.


Stop Reading this

Stop Reading this and call Dr. Bob.

I was trying to put together a title that just “says it all”… I couldn’t think of anything more fitting than this.

I found Dr. Bob’s website in 2003 after searching through lists of yellow-paged counselors, calling offices and attempting to interview their indifferent staff.  Most offices never even returned my calls, which made quick work of my “Who Genuinely Cares?” counselor list.

From past years of dealing with other “specialists,” I had become very discouraged when I quickly realized these apathetic individuals were far less than their advertising had promised.  And after reading Dr. Bob’s background, I told myself “Well, if he can handle all of that, then he can handle anything I throw at him!”

In my lowest moment I realized that there was no better investment for myself and THE REST OF MY LIFE’s happiness than to find someone who had the ultimate dedication and experience.  I decided that I was worth it and I didn’t want to feel like this anymore.  When I picked up the receiver, I was literally an “emotional puddle on the floor” …where in my heart and my mind…bitter sadness and an inability to function reigned.  Desperately hoping this was the last phone call I would have to make, I called.  I cannot summarize in this paragraph what a difference it has since made in my life.

That day of my last phone call looked like this… perhaps you can relate to this picture?

The curled phone cord pulled taught under my desk in a desolate hallway cubicle… resonating with echoes of muffled sobbing from under the cold, grey laminate.  Only relief came with the 45 minutes of consoling and listening from Dr. Bob, who was at the time, a complete stranger to me but who cared just as much as if I was family to him.   Today, all I can say is that I had no idea Life could be this way and I now when I need therapy calling Dr. Bob for an appointment is like calling a great friend.

So I am hoping for anyone who is reading this, stop denying yourself to purge that sinking sensation in your stomach.  Life doesn’t have to be lived with that feeling that is haunting you every day you wake up.  It is so much better and is so much more… From one person who has gone through the fire and has made it through to the other side, I want YOU to embrace YOUR REALITY.  Denial gets you nowhere… it ends now if you decide to do something about it.  For your sake, I hope that you do.  I did and I am forever grateful that I had the courage to make that first step because it has become an amazing life staircase for me.



Yesterday my wife and I happily celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary.  Six years ago we both doubted we would be celebrating our 20th.  With our marriage in crisis we searched for professional help and I thank God we found Dr. Stadheim.

Though my wife and I knew our relationship was in serious trouble we didn’t know why.  We thought we knew. I said it was her fault, she said it was mine.  Dr. Stadheim expertly and with great care and patience, led us to discover much about ourselves and each other.

Dr. Stadheim showed us what our unhealthy (and sometimes destructive) behaviors were, where they originated, how to recognize them and finally how to change them to healthy and loving behaviors.  With the years of experience Dr. Stadheim has, and the skill with which he applies his experience, he often recognized behavior problems immediately.  Understanding that I believed my behavior was completely normal, healthy and wise, Dr. Stadheim gently and gradually counseled me, never trying force me to change but showed me where these behaviors originated and why and how I could change them.  Again, without being aggressive, Dr. Stadheim quietly challenged my belief system and changed my life.  I was amazed at the time that he did the same for my wife.  We both were damaging our relationship but neither of us could see that in ourselves.

Trust issues went away.  The need to manipulate and control went away.  Insecurities disappeared.  We learned to communicate, recognize behavior unhealthy to our relationship and stop it before it started.  We are closer, happier and more loving toward each other than we have ever been, even more so than when we were dating or newly weds!

Dr. Stadheim didn’t only concern himself with our marriage.  He took care of us individually.  He showed each of us how to be happy and secure with ourselves, explaining that when we are healthy individually we will be much healthier as a couple.  This proved to be true.  In fact my relationships with my children, my siblings, friends and co-workers have benefited from Dr. Stadheim’s wisdom.  He not only helped me and my wife, but without ever meeting them he helped many more people in my life.  I have loving relationships with family members and friends, stronger relationships with co-workers, many of whom have since become very good friends, and I am happy and secure with myself.  My wife tells me she feels the same.

Dr. Stadheim is even helping people not yet born.  Since my wife and I visited Dr. Stadheim regularly, our first grandchild was born.  She lights up when she visits “Mimi” and “Granddad” – living happily ever after in the same house. 


You want him to be wrong


He always lets me sit in my chair clearing away his notes from the previous client. Behind me a wall of books of problems far greater than mine and solutions I’ll never discover. In front of me a mirror that forces me to look myself in the eye. He listens interjecting at just the right time with a personal story a reminder that he’s real His words and analogies are strokes of an artist allowing me to see the real picture inside my mind. You want him to be wrong about you but he’s not. We end with a prayer. He asks God to watch over me until we meet again. I thank God for “Dr. Bob.”


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Our Goals at The Christian Living Center

Provide the Counsel, Strength and Hope for

The Individual

  • To Encourage, motivate and teach individuals, couples and families to Reveal, Feel, and Deal so God can heal their individual issues and they can enjoy fulfilling lives.

The Church

  • To provide partnerships and team ministry with pastors, congregations and individuals within the congregations to grow in their Personal and Spiritual lives.

Our Community

  • So God can heal our communities, families and so they can enjoy fulfilling work, prayer and play with one another.

To Grow Through and Grow From the problems of everyday living

This ministry is based on the Attraction of the unconditional Love and healing of Jesus Christ.


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